Owning the pain

A Rosary Meditation: The Fifth Sorrowful Mystery, The Crucifixion.

“And when they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified him.” Luke 23:34

That’s a pretty blunt statement, isn’t it? They went where they were going and they did what they set out to do. No frills, no attempt to mask the event is phrases meant to cover up what otherwise ought to be obvious.

People do that a lot, don’t we? Make long explanations, rationalizations, whatever it takes to cover up suffering, or at least tone it down so that it doesn’t seem all that bad. Or if it is all that bad the hurting gets lost in the multitude of words and so shoved aside. Which, being human, is where we want suffering. Pushed aside and covered up so we don’t have to look at it, even if the covering is nothing more than words.

The truth of the matter is that, when it comes to our own daily crucifixions, we are where we are in our life (like Jesus being lead to Golgotha, he was where he was) and we hurt (like Jesus hurt when they crucified him). Now our sufferings don’t compare for the simple reason that we aren’t carrying the weight of the worlds sins as he did. But, again, being human, we carry loads that in the moment seem just as hurtful to us. And we, or those around us, start talking in an effort to mask over the situation. Sometimes we even go Pollyanna. Personally, and I do my own fair share of covering up pain and painful circumstances, I can’t stand Pollyanna any more than I can pain. But some of the folks around me over the past few years seem to thrive on it.

We don’t like pain or having to face it. But that’s the only real way to deal with it. Anything else is denial and that leads no where other than more pain. Jesus, while being lead to his crucifixion, wasn’t making excuses and trying to make things look not so bad. They were bad and he dealt with it. “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they’re doing.” But he realized all to well exactly what was going on.

When we’re confronted with painful experiences turning a blind eye, or trying to smooth things over in a comforting way, doesn’t help in the long run. The blunt statement, “I hurt”, does. It puts us in a place where we can work on the thing, even if its a matter of dieing, rather than suffering all the more for not having done what needed to be done.

“I can do all these things in him who strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13, Douay-Rheims.

Just a thought … While we’re bloody and beaten, exactly how much good does it do us to pray, “Oh, I’m OK Lord. This is no big deal, nothing really.” Taking our minds off our pain for a breather, to relax, to regroup, is one thing. Denial is another. What strengths do we cheat ourselves out of when we try to be strong on our own?


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  1. Excellant!

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